I played Cards Against Humanity the other day with some friends and — whew. If y’all have played it, you know what I mean. If you haven’t, well — let’s just say it makes your inner feminist killjoy REEEEEAAAALLLY uncomfortable. So I thought I’d whip up a little expansion pack to throw into the game for some momentary relief. Download, print and enjoy!
Hi Folks! I have a new project that I’ve just completed this evening! It’s called the “Keeping Your Promises Sticker Chart Pack” and I’ve detailed its purpose in both short and long form below.
The idea is this: a sweet tool full of cute animals and terrible puns to help folks who (like me) are learning or re-learning how to establish trust with themselves (especially around lovingly correcting obsolete coping mechanisms developed to cope with trauma).
Best Use: set a reasonable and attainable goal and promise yourself to stick with it to the best of your ability every single day for a month. Then celebrate and affirm every single victory with a little sticker or smiley face! It’s OK to not be perfect — the goal isn’t perfection, it’s active and positive engagement with the parts of us that want to take the best kind of care of ourselves we can.
If, like me, you’ve come up into the world through trauma, the most difficult person to trust may ultimately end up being yourself. The reasons for this are complex and, strangely, ultimately rooted in self-love — as children without a full set of tools in our emotional toolbelt, we develop flawed coping mechanisms that are meant to keep us safe and sane but that, in adulthood, become fixed and habitual and ultimately harmful. Experimenting with ways to correct these behaviors over time may lead to a lot of try and fail, and may feel like we are constantly making and breaking promises to ourselves. Eventually, we may feel we cannot truly rely on our own word. This is a difficult relationship to repair. I speak from experience.
In a world where grandiose resolutions are the first thing we tend to do in a new year, where self-flagellation and all-or-nothing mantras can keep us locked in problematic cycles — I wondered what I could do to start small, to slowly but surely repair my faith in myself and my ability to have my own back.
So I drew up this sticker sheet as a silly and joyful way to encourage myself to focus on keeping one small promise to myself, every single day, for a month. It doesn’t really matter what it is. A 10 minute walk. A glass of water every morning. A single expression of gratitude. What matters is that, for every single day for a month, I keep my word to myself. And for every day that I do, I get to have a moment with myself that celebrates that fact. I peel off a star, and I stick it to the calendar, and I tell myself that today I kept my word. Today I was a good friend to myself.
The trick for me is to set a reasonable and sustainable goal. A specific goal. Nothing vague or airy. Make a promise. Endeavor to keep it. And reward yourself. I hope you’ll join me!
The morning after that terrible woman’s “Dear Fat People” video launched on YouTube, I woke up thinking “I deserve a @(#&(* Merit Badge for not flying over to Canada to sit on her”. So, I designed one (and a few others) and posted them on Facebook. Much hilarity ensued and folks started asking for stickers, buttons, and patches. SO! I’m fundraising the start-up costs for a print run of 300 sticker sheets. If we meet that goal and all 300 sheets sell, then we’ll move on to pins and patches. Join in the fun here: http://igg.me/at/rad-fatty-merit-badges/x/322389
I used to think that self esteem was something one was only allowed once the self was TRULY esteemable or worthy. And of course I believed in society’s idea of what an esteemable person was — namely THIN, BEAUTIFUL, WHITE, HETEROSEXUAL, FIT, HEALTHY, and most of all, NEVER WRONG ABOUT ANYTHING. Then, one day, I met someone I could tell the truth about myself to. All the things I felt ashamed about, the things I felt made me unlovable, unworthy, disposable — and it turns out they felt that way, too. Reflected in the struggle of the person in front of me, I saw our shared strength, resilience, and beauty. And it changed my life. So now I think SELF-ACCEPTANCE is a better term. Defined as a FEARLESSNESS in the face of one’s own imperfections; a willingness to TELL OUR TRUTHS with lesser apology. And the COMPASSION to extend that courtesy to others.
Yoga for Larger Bodies is an animated documentary of one woman’s experience of being a plus-sized yoga instructor. It is the origin story of London’s first yoga class specifically for larger bodied individuals. Uniquely, and in keeping with the themes of union, meditation, and connection, the animation and all of the images it contains is formed of a single, continuous line. It’s a beautiful story with all *kinds* of health (mental, physical, social) equally valued. Please share!
The animation is a collaboration between myself as animator and its narrator, yoga instructor and proprietress of London’s Light Yoga Space, Janice Kate Fisher.
The animation is part of an ongoing series I’m creating for the Fat Experience Project. If you have a story to tell, please contact me there!
I welcome comments and questions (either below or in private — click Contact above) about this blog! I’ve also made the full text available as a PDF here for those using screen readers or who have trouble reading graphic text.
* – Note: The fat unicorn in this post is NOT the same kind of unicorn as THE Fat Unicorn superhero at bigfatunicorn.wordpress.com
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Ok, Y’all. I’m opening up freelance availability again now that school is over. I’m starting slow with pet portraits in this continuous line style – Just $30 on Etsy for a custom illustration! Only 20 slots available.
On this, the second day of freedom from my undergrad coursework, I got a wild hair to draw. Today inspiration struck in the form of a fat fashion paper doll. Just two outfits and one doll for now. Download the PDF, print, cut, and play! If you download it, I’d love a photo of what you do with it! Click the image to download.
I thought I’d try my hand at this ‘sketchnote’ thing and see what happened. Aside from Foucault’s wonky face and the fact that the guy from the Milgram experiment looks a bit like Buffalo Bill, I think it turned out OK. A little synopsis of biopower and performativity.
Just a passing thought I wanted to place somewhere rather than a well thought-out blog post:
Spatially – I am aware of my body as I move through the world, as I navigate a larger-than-it-was-designed-for body through a never-ending obstacle course of a world. I am constantly taking measurements as I walk; is there enough room for this man to pass on the sidewalk? Will my ass fit in that chair? Can I buckle that airplane seatbelt? Can I fit comfortably behind the wheel of that car? Am I blocking the passage of fellow pub-goers? I am fairly graceful because of this – I know how to slide my body through tight spaces, to turn my hips just-so to avoid bumping strangers, or to lift my bag just high enough to avoid its bulk adding to mine as I skim through underground turnstiles. I sometimes think the world misses the grace and beauty of a fat girl as ballerina, effortlessly avoiding impact with a hundred obstacles a day. It’s pretty respectable if you stop to think about it.